Take your disability and go away!


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rejects - Stuart Miles

The more I am around people who are not handicapped, the more I realize that there is no place for me in the ‘normal’ world. I have never belonged and I never will. I want others who are handicapped, no matter what that looks like, to know, yes, I know how it feels to be an outcast.

I know how it feels for people to treat your handicap like it is an inconvenience to THEM. I know how it feels to have someone mistreat you because you have a handicap. I know what it feels like to have someone intentionally do things that target your handicap and cause pain or discomfort.

I know what it feels like to have people make certain you know that because you are handicap you are a second class citizen and have no right to ask for any accommodation or help.

I know how it feels to have someone make you feel like you should not be around or even alive because you have a disability. Like you should be put in a box somewhere so no one can be bothered with you.

Yeah, I know how that feels.

Sure, part of it is just plain ignorance; they don’t understand the issues that come from disabilities. But a lot of it comes from being selfish and self-centered. They don’t care about other people and are insensitive to the needs of others. All they care about is what they want when they want it. No one else matters to them.

This is the antithesis of a Christian attitude. Many so-called ‘christians’ will help people – until it infringes upon their own comfort or desire. Then it is game over. The evil comes out and the devil gets glorified. The hate I have observed and experienced in my life by ‘christians’ in response to disabled people is horrifying.

So, no, real Christians follow Christ’s teaching and reach out to help others. They operate in love and bear good fruit.

But these others bear nasty, rotten fruit and they are so bound up they don’t even know it.

They never stop to think beyond their own small, self-centered world to realize that handicapped people go through those ‘inconveniences’ every single day. In their world it is all about them and no one else matters.

Every day I make accommodations for the ‘normal’ world. Yet when I ask for one simple accommodation I am labeled ‘inconsiderate.’ I am inconsiderate because I try to avoid severe pain and discomfort.

So, let’s talk about that.

Let’s talk about the inconsiderate person in a wheelchair who is slowing you down.

Let’s talk about the inconsiderate blind person who bumped you with their cane or dared bring their service dog into the restaurant where you are eating.

Let’s talk about the inconsiderate deaf person because, well, if you don’t know sign language you have to write notes in order to be understood.

How about the inconsiderate autistic person with sensory processing disorder who cannot tolerate bright lights or glare or loud noise or strong odors because it sends shooting, electrical shock like pain through their entire body?

But, hey, as long as YOU are comfortable, right?



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Unity - 89studio

I am sick to death of the discrimination and hate against other races and people.

White people against black, everyone against Hispanic, calling them all ‘Mexicans’ (really?), the slurs against Asians and Middle Easterners – it is just sickening.

It seems that people are LOOKING for the differences to justify hate and fear (fear really is that basis for hate). They create this divide when really there is no difference.

But the biggest issue I have (since our sorry society is actually taking baby steps to move in the direction of ending racial and ethnic prejudice) is the discrimination I experience on a regular basis because of my (world defined) ‘disability.’

Autism is just another way of being, like having brown skin or white skin, blue eyes or brown ones, like being tall or short. It is a different wiring of the brain.

Autism is NOT a disease, a defect, a punishment (thanks a mil Toni Braxton for telling the world that your autistic child was a punishment – nice), something to be cured. Yes, some of us are less functional than others – ON THE OUTSIDE – but you really don’t know what is going on INSIDE.

Just because we make YOU uncomfortable doesn’t mean that we should be ‘cured’ or put away. Your discomfort does not invalidate our right to be held as valuable individuals. Some of the greatest minds in history were autistic – Einstein, Mozart, Temple Grandin, Bill Gates, and a whole host of highly creative, intelligent, scientific people. The list is incredible.

I have been discriminated against severely because of my ‘disability.’ I have been ridiculed, abused, rejected and been made an outcast because I am different. Most of the time that discrimination comes for sheer ignorance. People don’t understand and they don’t want to because if they take the time to learn then they can no longer justify their poor treatment of others. Yes, I am socially awkward. Yes, I say things sometimes that offend. That is not my intention but I just speak the truth and am not as equipped as my neutotypical counterparts to handle some aspects interpersonal communication.

I offended someone recently and they have become quite nasty towards me – trouble is I sometimes have to work with this person. This is just another example of someone preferring to remain in their ignorance and their maintaining a thin skin as opposed to taking the intelligent route and educating themselves and moving toward understanding. But their misplaced arrogance is their problem, not mine. Their choice to hate and discriminate instead of trying to become educated and better understand is their problem. And in all honesty, that typically indicates a lack of intelligence as well as a lack of character – something to think about.

There is a billboard about a mile from my home that promotes finding a ‘cure’ for autism – as if it is a disease. So speaking for the autistic community, I say this.

We don’t need to be cured; We need to be accepted.

Stop looking for our faults and differences because if that is all you want to see, that is all you will see – and you won’t have to look too hard. Then again, if all we wanted to see was YOUR faults and differences we wouldn’t have to look too hard either.

This is the way we were born. We did not choose our differently wired brain any more than you chose your height, skin color or eye color.

I was born this way and I wouldn’t change it for the world! Because of my autism I am intelligent, I see and experience the world in a different way. You know, if you stopped judging me and criticizing me, opened your heart and mind to actually get to know me you might even like me.

There is NOTHING in the Bible that says any race or ethnicity is an abomination or deserves to be abused. There is not one scripture that says people who are ‘disabled’ are less than human or are not able to serve God. Not a one.

Please, PLEASE stop seeing the differences and start seeing the contributions. They are there if you will just open your eyes. We are all here on this earth together, put here to serve the Lord, it is high time we come together and work in unity to do just that.


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So, What’s this Jesus Name Baptism all About?


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Stuart Miles3

Are we saved by baptism in Jesus name or baptism in titles?

This tends to be a pretty hot topic. People will say, “Well, I believe,” or “I feel,” or “My opinion is…”

Actually, it isn’t about what we think or what we feel or even what our opinion is.
John 14-15 ~If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.
The Bible doesn’t say, “if you feel like it,” or “whatever you think,” or “whatever your opinion is.” It says to obey God’s word. Period. Finite.

We MUST be baptized in Jesus name. That is the ONLY way to be saved, the ONLY way to have the power and authority that comes with being one of His. In fact, it is the ONLY way to become ‘one of His.’

Furthermore, if you have been exposed to the truth and you reject it, you will be held accountable. It is a SIN to disobey God.

People who believe in baptizing in titles will bring up Matthew 28:19 as their ‘proof.’ But, really, what about it? We were commanded to be baptized in the NAME of the father, some and Holy Ghost. The NAME of the father, son and Holy Ghost is JESUS!
In fact, if you look through at ALL the examples in the Bible of people being baptized, NOT ONE of them was EVER baptized in titles. EVERY SINGLE ONE was baptized in Jesus name.
And I got scripture to support it.

Those who have not had the revelation or insist in this Roman Catholic manner of baptism (man-made doctrine by the way) are typically either spiritually immature, haven’t been taught truth or are in rebellion.
Spiritually immature meaning not receiving the baptism of the Holy Ghost as evidenced in speaking in other tongues.
Not taught truth as in not being taught at home or being in a church that does not teach truth.
Rebellion by rejecting the Word of God, rejecting the teaching of Holy Ghost filled individuals, rejecting the revelation and conviction of the Holy Ghost.
Rebellion is a sin, btw.

The apostles were taught by the Master Himself. I am pretty sure they knew what they were doing and were being obedient to Him.
Here are a few scriptures where people were baptized (there are many more). Notice the NAME they were baptized in.

ACTS 2:38
Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

ACTS 8:15
Who, when they were come down, prayed for them, that they might receive the Holy Ghost:
ACTS 8:16
(For as yet he was fallen upon none of them: only they were baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus.)

ACTS 10:46
For they heard them speak with tongues, and magnify God. Then answered Peter,
ACTS 10:47
Can any man forbid water, that these should not be baptized, which have received the Holy Ghost as well as we?
ACTS 10:48
And he commanded them to be baptized in the name of the Lord. Then prayed they him to tarry certain days.

ACTS 19:5
When they heard [this], they were baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus.

The scripture is clear.
The people are disobedient.

Many people erroneously believe that Romans 10:9, “that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;” Means that if you believe then you are saved, that is it. That’s all you have to do.

And it is partly true. Only believers will be saved.
Then again, even the devil is a believer and I’m pretty sure he isn’t saved.
Believing in God is not what this means. It means ACCEPTING in FAITH and KNOWING that Jesus is God. It means KNOWING the TRUTH of scripture and loving that truth.

The Bible tells us to make sure all teaching lines up with scripture. Just taking man’s word is dangerous. There are many false prophets and false doctrine is abundant.
We have to judge the teaching critically and if it does not line up with scripture then reject it.
The ONLY truth is God’s Truth.

You can compare it to an earthly marriage. There really is no difference.
Our earthly relationships are used to give us solid examples of our spiritual relationships.
That is why we must keep our earthly relationship healthy and honest.

Baptizing in titles is not correct because right there Jesus is saying that the NAME of all three is Jesus. He is telling us right there that He is ONE – He is the Father. He is the Son. He is the Holy Ghost. The name for all three of those offices is JESUS.
The titles make it sound like there are three gods sitting up in Heaven, that they share the power. But God said that He is ONE God.
He is NOT sharing any power! He IS the power!

I grew up Baptist, but even as a small child certain scripture puzzled me. To me scripture indicated that Jesus is God. I mean, look at John 1:1-14. Look at where Jesus said ‘I and the father are one.’ Even the Name Jesus means Mighty God!
It just did not make sense that there would be three sitting up there when God said there is ONE GOD.
I asked the questions directly and no one could give me a straight answer. I got the whole “it’s a mystery:” a lot.
Then I started searching for myself. I went to several churches but to be honest, the whole idea of a trinity seemed wrong to me. It just did not ring true and it certainly did NOT line up with scripture.

Then a dear friend showed me some scripture and told me I wasn’t crazy., that there really is just ONE GOD and His name is Jesus.
If you doubt. Pray for a revelation of truth.

If you really believe you are right then you won’t worry about God revealing His truth to you. The only way you would have apprehension about praying that is if somewhere deep inside you know you are wrong.

Sometimes people will use the scripture that says Jesus is sitting on the right hand of the Father as a basis for their belief that there is a trinity, therefore justifying the baptism in titles.

The “right hand” indicates authority. The right hand is authority.
Jesus is the authority. When we are baptized in His name we have the AUTHORITY to cast out devils, heal the sick, all of it.

Plus, God is a SPIRIT. He doesn’t have hands. This is figurative language.

The ‘sinner’s prayer’ that seems to be so popular is not Biblical. It isn’t even in the Bible!
The ‘sinner’s prayer’ will NOT get you saved. It isn’t what the Bible says.
Acts 2:38 ~Peter said to them, “Repent, and each of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins; and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.

Now, Jesus taught Peter so I am pretty sure that Peter knows the score here.

It is necessary to repent. That is confess your sins, ask for forgiveness and sin no more.

Then it is necessary to be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ by immersion in water.

Then the gift of the Holy Ghost is given. And guess what? If you don’t speak in tongues then you have not received the Holy Spirit. You have not been filled. Speaking in other tongues, in this case, confirms to the believer that he or she has been filled. It also provides a witness for others.

And John 3:16 is not a salvation plan either. It just opens the door. When we choose to live for God the first step is faith. Grace makes salvation possible. Faith is the fuel. It is what allows us to repent, be baptized in Jesus name and receive the Holy Spirit.

Peter said that the only way to be saved from this perverse generation is to repent, be baptized in Jesus name and receive the Holy Ghost.. The apostles understood and they obeyed. They went out and that is how they baptized – in Jesus name. Every. Single. Time.

But don’t just take my word for it. Go to the Book.
Everything here is truth and it is right there in the Bible.
Then I suggest praying for God to open your mind and your heart, giving you a revelation of His truth.

And I will say this.

ANYONE who wants to know more about this, wants a Bible study, has questions, ANYTHING, is welcome to contact me or friend me. I answer all emails.
I am a lover of truth and I love sharing truth.
If you truly want to know, I will be happy to provide good, Godly counsel that is Biblically based.

A Bible Verse Once a Week – FREE!


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Phone Scripture

My pastor sends out a text once a week with a scripture. If you would like to be on that list and receive a Bible verse once a week, please email your number to Stephanie@TheChristianAspie.com and I will have him add you.

There is no spam, nothing more than one, simple Bible verse once a week.You will not receive any other emails from me or anyone else. I will be deleting your email after I pass on the text number unless you say otherwise.

We gain so much from scripture – encouragement, guidance and sometimes those WOW GOD moments!

Maybe there is a WOW GOD moment waiting for you…
But you will never know unless you get on the list.

The thief on the cross


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Over the past few weeks I have had several people ask about the ‘thief on the cross’ or reference the event and I wanted to address it to hopefully clarify some things.

One of the most common questions I get asked by people regarding baptism is, ‘What about the thief on the cross? How was he saved?’ Usually they are trying to justify why they have not been baptized in Jesus’ name or to argue that baptism is not necessary.

Any teaching that in contrary to the Word of God, that does not teach the necessity of baptism in Jesus’ name is false doctrine. That is not me talking, that is according to scripture.

So, let’s delve deeper into just why the thief on the cross was saved without being baptized and why we now are required to be baptized in order to be saved.

The thief on the cross died under the Law of Moses.

OK, so why are we no longer under the Law of Moses? What changed?

Well, Jesus came, died and was resurrected. Everything changed.

We humans just could not hold to the commandments. We kept sinning again and again. We could not get away from it and we were falling farther and farther into our sin as we became more and more of the world. The human race was lost to sin, to satan.

Then Jesus came, a perfect, sinless human. He lived a sinless life then shed His blood when He died on the cross to save us from the world, from sin. He paid with His life to buy us back so that we could have the chance to live eternally by Him.

That chance is available to all. According to the Word of God, we must believe in Him, repent of our sins and be baptized in His name (the name of Jesus) by immersion for the remission of our sins. And we need to be filled with the Holy Ghost, evidenced by speaking in other tongues as the Spirit gives utterance.

This is explained throughout scripture and is demonstrated in scripture again and again.

The important thing, though, is the name. You must be baptized in the name in order to inherit the authority that comes with the name. If you have not been baptized in the name of Jesus then you have no authority to invoke the name of Jesus for anything. You may be able to say it, but they are just words. You have no authority because you have not been reborn into the family under the name of Jesus.

That is why it is so vital to be baptized in the name of Jesus and not under the titles. Being baptized under the titles will just get you wet. Being baptized in the name, the name of Jesus Christ, will bring you into that family, under His authority so that you can spend eternity with Him.

You can learn more about baptism in Jesus’ name by reading Is Baptism Necessary for Salvation?

Twenty Signs You’re A Luke Warm Christian


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This is important! Look at this list, do you fit in there anywhere? Maybe it is time to get serious about your walk with God. This is too important to ignore.

The Ballestero Blog

Twenty Signs Of A Luke Warm Christian

(The Harsh Reality: Half Christian, Half Sinner, Totally Lost!)

Rev. 3:14 And unto the angel of the church [a] of the Laodiceans write; These things saith the Amen, the faithful and true witness, the beginning of the creation of God;’

lukewarmRev. 3:15 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot.’

Rev. 3:16 So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.’

Rev. 3:17 Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked:’

Rev. 3:18 I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the…

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Aspies and Relationships


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One thing that I see come up quite a bit with Aspies is relationships – usually of the romantic kind.

I know that I wanted a relationship but it was an awful experience! It seemed that any man I would date or get into a relationship with would get completely frustrated with me.

Most of the time it ended in abuse, either verbally, emotionally, physically or all three.

It wasn’t until I put it all into God’s hands that I actually found a husband. CW is good to me, loving and he has taken the time to educate himself on Asperger’s. He doesn’t always understand, but he tries.

Does he get frustrated? Of course. He would get frustrated anyway. That happens when two people live together. But we work it out.

It also  helps that we keep God at the center of our marriage. He is the most important part of our marriage. We pray together each morning, worship together and help each other grow in Him.

So if you are a frustrated single Aspie, here is my advice to you.

Give it to God. Work on your relationship with Him right now while you are single. Ask Him to send you the person that HE has picked out for you.

Learn to be flexible. No one is perfect. Agree to accept each other just as you are. Help your partner understand your Asperger’s, don’t just expect them to accept it and be perfect.

Don’t believe the movies and books when it comes to marriage. Make your own marriage;  your own relationship. Don’t try to model it after a book you have read or a  movie you have seen because those scenarios are unrealistic.

Be prepared to work. Marriage is work and you have to be prepared to work at it. A marriage is like a tree. If you water it, fertilize it and take care of it, it will produce fruit and thrive. However, if you neglect it, it will wither away and die.

Finally, keep God at the center of your relationship. Just as you work at your marriage, so should you work at your relationship with God. It takes time and effort but both relationships are important.

Pray together, play together, talk and take time to know each other. But most of all, let your marriage relationship glorify God.

Who comes first? And second, and third…

God First-smI see a lot of people who seem somewhat confused by the order of priorities in their life, marriage and family.

A few years ago, before I married my husband, I was drawn into a discussion with a man. He asked me, “Does God want us to love Him more or does He want us to love the people more.”

I answered that God wants us to love Him more, then people second. The man flipped out and over the next two days bombed my email with a barrage of ‘evidence’ supporting his stance that God wants us to love the people first.

He was so very, very wrong but refused to accept scripture supporting that he was wrong that that God wants us to love Him first. He finally resorted to name calling and personal attacks. It was then that I realized that he was not accepting and would never accept the Biblical evidence I provided that showed we are to love God first. He did not want to know the truth; he just wanted me to agree with him and not challenge his opinion – which I might add was inaccurate.

The truth is, Matthew 6:33 clearly says that we are to first seek the Kingdom of God. But if we look a little further, to Matthew 22:36-40, the question is very plainly answered.

36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

Hmmm, it is pretty clear to me that we are to love God first.

From there, though, many people are confused. It makes sense because the Bible does not lay out a structure of priorities. However, when we study the scripture, we can see it quite clearly.

Ephesians 5 gives us a pretty clear picture of what our priorities should be. Ephesians 5:25 says that a husband should love his wife the way Christ loved the church. Well, when we look at where Christ placed the church in His priorities we can see that it had the highest place after God. Wives are commanded in Ephesians 5:22 to submit to their husbands as to the Lord.

Children come from that union of husband and wife; they are next in the line of priorities.

So, within the family structure, we are to love God first and foremost, our spouse second and our children third. This is God’s order, how He intended the family structure to be.

Now, we are also commended to honor our father and mother (Deuteronomy 5:16), our extended family (1 Timothy 5: , our church family or fellow believers (most of 1 Corinthians, Romans 14:10, Galatians 5:13, Ephesians 4:32, 1 Thessalonians 5:11, Hebrews 10:24).

Finally, we see in Matthew 28:19 that we are to love everyone else, bringing the gospel to the lost, making them disciples of Christ and baptizing them in His name (Jesus name) – populating the Kingdom.

I hope this clears up any confusion that some of you may have had on this topic. I would love to hear your thoughts on this and if you have more supporting scripture please share.

Is Baptism necessary for salvation?

Recently I was on a forum, involved in a discussion regarding the necessity of water baptism for salvation. Some said yes, some said no and some had no opinion whatsoever. I chimed in and in true Aspie form, proclaimed boldly what I know to be true because scripture tells us water baptism is necessary. Of course, most, if not all, in the forum are NTs and they do not appreciate the boldness of Aspies. As usual, I received quite a bit of email and some nasty comments.

But I KNOW truth. I know for a fact what the Bible says. As a Spirit Filled Christian, a Christian who has been baptized in water AND spirit, I know what scripture tells us is necessary for salvation. I will outline it here in case you want to know the truth of the Bible as well.
Please, though, before you try to argue against what scripture tells us, please read this ENTIRE post. It has been my experience that many people will read only a portion of a post then go on the attack. I ask that you do not do that here. I have provided more than adequate scripture to support the Truth that water baptism is required for salvation. And if you have not been baptized in Jesus’ name, please, please find a Jesus name baptized, Holy Ghost filled person to baptize you the correct way. It is very important.
So, is water baptism necessary for salvation?
Yes, the Bible clearly tells us that water baptism by immersion in the name of Jesus is required for salvation as is baptism in the Holy Spirit.
Please note that by baptism I mean by immersion in water in the Name of Jesus for the remission of sins –  NOT under titles. Luke 24:47 says that repentance and remission of sins should be preached in His name. Water baptism in Jesus’ name is for the remission of sins.
We see quite a few scripture where salvation and baptism are referenced together. Mark 16:16, He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned.
Acts 2:38 lays out the Apostles doctrine for salvation: Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
Romans 6:1-4
What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?
3 Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death?
4 Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.
Baptism saves us.
1 Peter 3:21
The like figure whereunto even baptism doth also now save us (not the putting away of the filth of the flesh, but the answer of a good conscience toward God,) by the resurrection of Jesus Christ
Faith alone is not enough.
James 2:24
Ye see then how that by works a man is justified, and not by faith only.
Acts 22:15
And now why tarriest thou? arise, and be baptized, and wash away thy sins, calling on the name of the Lord.
Paul also stressed the importance of water baptism in Jesus’ name.
Acts 19:1-6
And it came to pass, that, while Apollos was at Corinth, Paul having passed through the upper coasts came to Ephesus: and finding certain disciples,
2 He said unto them, Have ye received the Holy Ghost since ye believed? And they said unto him, We have not so much as heard whether there be any Holy Ghost.
3 And he said unto them, Unto what then were ye baptized? And they said, Unto John’s baptism.
4 Then said Paul, John verily baptized with the baptism of repentance, saying unto the people, that they should believe on him which should come after him, that is, on Christ Jesus.
5 When they heard this, they were baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus.
6 And when Paul had laid his hands upon them, the Holy Ghost came on them; and they spake with tongues, and prophesied.
In Acts 10 we read of the story of Cornelius. When Peter witnessed to him all who heard the word received the Holy Ghost. At that time Peter COMMANDED that they be baptized. He did not ask or encourage or recommend, he COMMANDED. That is strong evidence that baptism is necessary for salvation.

Relief – an update



I want to thank everyone who wrote and commented on my post, offering encouragement and prayers. There are greatly appreciated and they are helping. My husband took some aggressive steps and he took care of me. He is so awesome.

We are now staying in one of those hotels where you pay by the week. It is small, but it is ours.
It has a kitchenette so I can cook. I have tried to make it as homey as possible. I still miss everyone back home, but I am surviving here. I am even finding happy spots during the days. My husband helps with that. I have had a couple of nights where I slept well. Other times not so much.
But for now I have some relief. I will continue to associate with the people who were cruel and I have already forgiven them. But trust is very hard for me and when someone violates my trust it isn’t easily won back – if ever.
At this point, though, I can breathe and smile. I can relax.